Adversity brings out the best or worst in people

They say you never really know a person until you see them experience adversity. Well, this morning I discovered this about someone I’ve loved for a long time. Adversity has brought out a side of her I never thought I’d personally see. Adversity has shown me the REAL her. I see a very angry, unhappy person. 

Am I mad? No. Am I sad? Yes. Sad that she can’t see what I can see. Sad that she can’t distance herself and look at the bigger picture. In her head it seems there is only one right way, and if you don’t agree, then you are unfeeling, and uncaring. 

But I have spoke from my heart, and if this is truly how she feels, then no one, not even me can change this. So I guess this morning as I sit here shocked by her words, I also accept the fact that I may never change the way she feels. Until someone is willing to open their heart, there is nothing that I or anyone else can do. Until someone is willing to admit something to themselves, there is nothing we can do. So I will accept the situation, and go on with my life. A little sadder, but a little wiser, nonetheless. 

Addendum 9:00 PM

The more I thought about this today, the sadder I became. But do you know why? Because how could someone you love (and that loved you?), think so little of us to believe that we could be as uncaring as she stated/thinks? I don’t know what else to say.